I don't have the I'm right your wrong kind of MIL I have the overly helpful kind?

who encroaches on my independence and autonomy as an adult. Independence and the ability to stand on my own two feet were things that were important to my own parents. They made sure they instilled these values on me. My MIL and FIL are the opposite. They both felt abandoned by their own parents so they coddle their children, and they view me as one of their own, which is very sweet, except that now they try to coddle me as well. My FIL deals better with it than my MIL as I explained to him that I have been fending for myself for some number of years now because when I became an adult I was expected to fulfill my adult responsibilities, whereas when I married my DH he didn't even know how to renew his tags on his car. His parents actually wanted to go do it for us. Now, I love my MIL, but my autonomy and independence was hard won and hard earned, and although I will gladly accept love, I do not need to accept coddling. What do I do?